Tools to create a love that lasts

This article is about “The 5 Love Languages” book by Gary Chapman (link to Amazon). I believe these principles can bring any relationship closer together.  I know from personal experience, this book truly has the tools to create a love that lasts. 

The idea behind Gary Chapman’s book is to learn how to speak your partner’s love language in order to create a deeper connection with them. In other words, if you understand what it takes for your significant other to feel loved in the relationship (know their “love language”), it’s going to inevitably strengthen your bond. The concept sounds simple but sometimes it takes work for one or both parties to implement, especially if you have different love languages.

Here are the 5 main love languages people “speak” (in no specific order):

1. Words of Affirmation – Expressing verbal affection or appreciation (ie: giving compliments or praise, spoken affection, leaving love notes)
2. Quality Time – Spending focused time with each other without distractions or cell phones. (ie: going out to dinner, taking a walk, riding bikes)
3. Physical Touch – Expressing love through touch (ie: holding hands, snuggling, having sex)
4. Receiving Gifts – Giving a thoughtful gift (ie: flowers, jewelry, 6-pack of their favorite beer – aka “boy flowers”)
5. Acts of Service – A physical action that expresses love through service (ie: cleaning the house, washing their car, bringing lunch to their office on a busy day.)

I would suggest you and your significant other take the quiz to discover your love language(s) and then communicate not only what your top love languages are but consider giving each other some examples of how those languages can be played out. 

You’ll both most likely have more than one love language, but one or two will stand out more than the others. It might be a big wake-up call when you find out what makes your partner feel loved. You might also find that your partner has been speaking to you in their own love language for years and it might have been lost on you.

For example, My husband is constantly doing thoughtful things for me like scraping ice off my windshield on cold, winter mornings or making nice dinners. I’ve always taken these “acts of service” as being very sweet but after I saw the results of his quiz, I now realize those were ways he was communicating his love for me.

Furthermore, the act of you speaking their love language (showing your love) makes your partner want to love you more. Have you ever heard the saying, “like breeds like” or “love breeds love”? It means when you know someone has good/loving feelings towards you, it makes you more inclined to have good/loving feelings for them in return.

Action plan

Take the quiz and when you get the results of your top love languages, share your results with each other. Then start finding ways to fulfill your partner’s love language(s) (if you’re not doing so already) and watch how much your relationship improves. You might be surprised at the effect it has on your relationship. 

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